Feet lovers

Bryan loves his feet so much.. he can drag it into his mouth and suck it.now he's playing with his new baby walker and going around the house with it that makes me often wash his feet before he's back playing at crib, otherwise he will suck his dirty feet into his mouth. *yikes*

Meeting aunty Erika and Michelle

Today we're finally meet Erika and her baby, Michelle @ kelapa gading mall, she was born on 3 December, just 1 day before Bryan, Erika and I meet on discussion forum at weddingku. When I was pregnant with Bryan, I create a forum for babies born on November-December-January 2008 so we all can share all experience during our pregnancy. Michelle is taller 5 cm than Bryan and already crawling and standing. Actually, Kristin and her baby, Annabelle also want to join us but too bad that we're already going home when she reach there.

How to do?

As a newly mother who doesn't have any experience at all in parenthood, I browse lots of articles and read many people experience about how to teach kid become a good man in the future, and yet when it comes to real situation I still become speechless about how to handle Bryan, now he loves to scream, wailing when we don't do what he want us to do, I don't want him to be grown up as a spoiled kids, and yes I'm afraid that he can't control emotion and doing uncontrolled things like screaming or throwing tantrum in front of public.

I'm still confused about how to discipline bryan, I try to understand what he needs from me, why he cry and screaming but sometimes it just don't enough, especially when you're living together with others the pressure is on! they said that if your kid miss behave then people around you will judge the mother first cause not being able to teach her kids a good manner. others tell me to gently flick bryan if he's doing something wrong so later on he will understand that he can't do it again, I see it works on bryan cousin, naomi who 6 months older than him. if her mother say in high tone" Naomi, pu ke yi ce yang.. mana karet?" she will stop it directly, if she still continue doing it then her mom will put rubber in her arm and hit it gently.

but, I don't totally really agree about "hitting or flick" part, it just make him scare but not understand the concept why I'm doing that, I'm totally agree with leony and adhitya it just a phase of growing up and we as his parents also growing up in emotionally and physically to become more patient and wiser to dealing with his daily behaviour, i don't say it will always easy and smooth, i'm sure there's a time when i feel like loosing temper and emotionally low, it just like riding a roller coaster. it just feel so good to know that i'm not alone in this, if my mom can survive with 4 children then i think Bryan is nothing compare to it. and slowly as time goes by.. I'm sure that I'm gonna find my own style to discipline bryan.

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear ... "
~1 John 4:18~

Months away..

In few months away, I'll go for holiday with Bryan..it would be our first time holiday and first time bryan meeting his ta-ku, ku-chong and Eugenia (jaya oldest sister,husband and daughter) I get excited yet worries at the same time, I'm worry he will cry in plane, I'm worry he will have trouble sleeping in a new place, I'm worry he will wailing or throwing tantrum as long as we are there, I'm worry that he's not eating well since i don't have much time to make him a porridge and other worries that I can't explain one by one here since it too much..i can go on with list.

but I get excited too cause it would be one of our precious moment together, just three of us survive as family without suster help around! with suster help,I can sneak out and have a me time alone moment, pamper my self with massage or going out with jaya. but it doesn't mean that i can't handle bryan alone without her help! she just make it a lot easier for me.

I already send 2 can of his usual formula milk when my parents in law went there last week, but i still work on with "what to bring list" since I'll go there for whole two weeks! and also some question that still not resolved such as : should i bring pampers from here or just buy there? should i bring his potty along? should i buy cereal or some other instant food from here? how many bags i need to bring all bryan things?

well, no matter how hard it looks like, I'm still sure that we'll have a great time there!! there's always be a first time for everything..

if you have experience in travel overseas with baby..please share with me! like to hear from you..

A new way to take a nap

Lately he's very difficult to take a nap, he will crying out loud, refuse to take pacifier and screaming when I try to put him on his crib,he will suddenly smile and happy when I take him out from his crib..actually he's been sleepy but put him to sleep is very hard now days, last saturday.. I took him to my mom house, he won't take a nap and the only way to make him doze off is take a ride with car! it only took less than 5 minutes in car to make this little bryan sleep!! usually, he's not like this.. last week he still can take nap well without cradle or wailing and screaming!! there it go again.. another phase of growing up which i really-really hope can end soon!

In a good mood

us.. during his good mood day, he can easily smile on camera and laughing out loud! i wish everyday can be like this.. :) he's mood really swing but most of the time, me as his mother know what to do to make him smile again! and it's really make me proud as a mother!

Overweight mommy

Mommy is overweight!! *frustrated* it's really hard to back to my pre-pregnancy weight since I stop breastfeeding bryan, I wonder why the scale always increase? I only gain 7 kg when pregnant with bryan, but before I'm pregnant I already increase 4 kg since my wedding day! 4 kg in 2 months!! It's all because I eat lots during my 2 weeks honeymoon! *blame the delicious buffet in cruise and flooding in Jakarta that make me extend my stay in spore for 5 days*

actually after labor my weight decrease 8 kg! I'm sooo happy! I even feel my tummy slimmer than before pregnant, so after all i thought i only have 2,5 kg to loose, but now after I stop breastfeeding, my weight up again 10 kg!! I'm too underestimate about weight loose! it's not easy than it looks like!! eventough all my pants still fit in (amazing huh?) i still have 12 kg to loose! diet..diet..diet... !!

Sippy cup

Bryan is able to hold his own bottle since he was 5 months old and this skill improving, now mostly he can hold his own bottle when drink a milk, and his pincer grasp also improve,he LOVES put everything he hold in his tiny mouth, my handphone, his toes, my laptop (he very curious to lick it when he sit on my lap), his finger, his toys, papers and even tissue!! so, i decide to introduce him to sippy cup

he still can't crawling and his mood still upside down, he even have a new skill in crying..it add a scream! LOUD one!! when he don't want to be put in crib, He'll doing sharp cry, screaming very loud till there's no other way to calm him down unless we hold him, he will suddenly stop all the crying and back to smile! oh yah.. for attention he also have new spoil trick, when he's wail or cry... he will add "mamamama mamamamama.." in very sad sound, calling me for help and if he's doing that, as a mother.. I DON'T have any option other than hold him directly and give him kisses! ohh.. my son, you are very clever knowing how to melt mommy heart!

I guess it's very hard to discipline him now, I've been browsing other moms blogs and find during this period month all their babies have the same symptoms like Bryan. for example, last night he successful to make his daddy woke up at 3.30am by his midnight cry and can't back to sleep again until morning, lucky that daddy have holiday today :P

Celebrating

Today,.. 11 years ago I met my soul mate

Saturday @ Senayan City

Me: look at camera son.. Bryan : mom, I'm sleepy...

trying to get a best shot, but he keeps curious bang the highchair

this is the best i can get.. but still he's not focus to camera *sigh*

Our story

Our bundle of joy

SMILE :)

How to poison your mother in-law

A long time ago in China, a girl named Li-Li got married and went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all.

Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law's habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.

Days passed, and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li's poor husband great distress.

Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law's bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it.

Li-Li went to see her father's good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs. She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all.

Mr. Huang thought for awhile, and finally said, "Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you."

Li-Li said, "Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do." Mr. Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told Li-Li, "You can't use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspects you when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. Don't argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen."

Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law.

Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr. Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother. After six months had passed, the whole household had changed.

Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.

The mother-in-law's attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in-law one could ever find. Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter.

Li-Li's husband was very happy to see what was happening.

One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again. She said, "Dear Mr. Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law! She's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her."

Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. "Li-Li, there's nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her."

HAVE YOU REALIZED that how you treat others is exactly how they will treat you? There is a wise Chinese saying: "The person who loves others will also be loved in return." God might be trying to work in another person's life through you.

The Golden Rule:

"Do for others what you would like them to do for you."
- Matthew 7:12a (NLT)

Good behave

Bryan is on good mood today, he laughs and not wailing when I put him on stroller, I'm so happy that he's in good behave, I DO hope its happen everyday *cross finger*! today, I try to increase his milk intake again from 150cc to 180cc cause he seem to hungry every 2 hours, he will start to cry out loud when I prepare the milk and suddenly stop only when he busy to drink his milk, I think its all because he cry lots lately so it make him thirsty often. I'll stick to 150cc in afternoon but in the morning before he taking his lunch and go to sleep at night I'll give him 180cc.

here's Bryan schedule :
6am - wake up (he'll directly go potty training)
6.30am - Milk 150cc
7.30am - morning walking with his popo
8.30am - Bath
8.45am - sleeping (usually only 20 minutes)
9.15am - Milk 180 cc
playing time until he tired and go to sleep again for at least half hour before lunch
12.00pm - lunch
13.00pm - Milk 150cc
13.30pm - Sleeping (around 1 hour)
15.00pm - Bath
15.30pm - snack time (cereal with banana or papaya)
16.00pm - Milk 150cc
16.10-17.00pm - usually he'll sleep again for 20minutes and wakes up when daddy go home
17.30pm-18.45pm - playing time with daddy
19.00pm - Milk 180cc and directly sleeping
around midnight he'll wake up one time to drink another 150cc then around 4am he'll start to wail again, but this time I'm not give him milk, only water and pacifier ;)

I also read from caden blog that when he was 7 months old, he also moody and easily crying. I think that all baby will have to face this phase, it's part of growing up not only for the baby itself but also for the mother, to become wiser and more patient to handle her son :)

Happy birthday daddy

Jaya celebrated his first birthday as a father, and as a present I ordered a black forest, his fav cake.On the top of cake, written "happy birthday daddy..love, mummy and bryan" ;) we're going to kelapa gading mall, it's our second time going out with no suster come along. since bryan is strong enough to sit, I brought small stroller for sitting position only, it's very light (5 kg) and easy to carry around, lucky that Bryan seems enjoying his first time riding, he kept quite and looked around, he even fell asleep on it! ;)

Too bad that bryan was already tired when he reached home and couldn't take a pic with daddy and cake, he was so sleepy and kept wailing when I tried to take a picture of him and his daddy was wearing the same T-shirt but since he kept moving around, the picture was blur.. !! :D

well, it's okay... daddy still have a great time on his birthday ;)
Happy birthday darling, we love you very very much!!!

On sunny saturday

Saturday note

Happy parents with their "India" son ;) *it's a mosquito bite*

Today Bryan suster take a day off until tomorrow, so Bryan stay at home all day playing with mummy and daddy, I'm so happy to spend a quality time alone with my baby and come to surprise he do LOTS of things today..he finally say his words, it's clear enough to hear, not a mumbling.. he say "BABA" then few hour later when he busy rolling and can't rolling back he wailing but this time he wail and calling my name.. MAMA..*wailing* mamammama..!!! wow!! and when he see daddy comes along and play with him, he also can say papa papa!! when i thought this day enough of surprise then he show us more, he can rolling over by himself for the first time on both side, left and right (thanks to fan toys that keep him curious to catch) we're so HAPPY!!! daddy say it's the best bday present,to hear his son calling him for the first time. so glad that we're both at home to witness his first words, kind of funny too that he really can call our name in the same day. Praise Jesus for His guidance to our son :)

Milk addict

Bryan first words

Moddy baby

Bryan mood today is UPSIDE DOWN!! he cry lots today!
he cry when I put him on bed for a while to prepare his milk, he cry when I'm not around, he cry when suster hold him, he even cry when he want to take nap, basically he cry most of the time today! recently it happen quite lot, when he turn 7 months old last week his mood also not good. I think its all because now he recognize people and don't want to be left alone especially with me, also he love us to hold him and walking around but everytime we put him back to his crib or stroller he'll start to cry out loud!! actually, I don't mind with all his wail, but when you are living together with others (read:in-laws) you'll start feel uncomfortable if your son cry all the time.

I really want to let bryan cry out loud when he ask me to hold him but at the other hand I'm afraid that his cry will disturb other and they will start ask me what happen? *sigh* I don't want Bryan to be spoil baby, I want to teach him when no is a no and cry not help at all. is it too soon how to behave?

Sitting = DONE!

Finally.. Bryan strong enough to pull him self up and balance it, he can sit perfectly now and also can hold it quite long around 10 minutes before I put him back to laid position, I'm affraid that he's too tired. well done, son! next lesson will be crawling...but please without wailing! :D

On being newly mom

Yesterday, Bryan turns 7 months old which mean I already become a mom for 7 months too.. learning everyday to understand what my baby needs and trust my intuition as mom, hoping my decisions its the best one for him, but still sometimes I feel so far from becoming a good mom such as when I failed to breastfeeding Bryan exclusively for 6 months, he stop breastfeeding when he's 5 months! i try so many ways to make him breastfeeding again, but since the teeth is showing up he keep bite my nipples, it hurts and sometimes it leave scratch *sigh*

now at his 7 months old he still can't rolling back from tummy, he always cry for help everytime he's tired though I try hard to make him practice everyday, but if i want to think it over, i think its all because that electric cradle, he never sleep at his crib since he was 2 months old! he always sleep at electric cradle, so from this day I drag the crib back to my room (eventough my room space will be pack) and try to put him sleep on his crib, hopefully it will help him develop his rolling skill and soon crawling. the photo tooks after Bryan put pajamas on and ready to sleep :)

actually put Bryan to sleep is so easy! he can sleep by himself, I never carry him around to put him sleep he even can't sleep in my shoulder, he always head up when I hold him basicly he dont like to be carry around, just put him in bed put on pacifier, company him (at least he can see you around) and then after 10-15 minutes (depends on his stamina) he'll fall asleep by himself. :)

well, being mommy is not as simple as it may looks like and It's not easy too...but yet it's a beautiful journey, to see my son growing day by day is a blessing, he make my simple life perfect with all his laughter and tears! love you, son :)

Hungry baby

Bryan routine is messed up! usually since he was 3 months old he can go sleep straight from 6.30pm-5.30am and only wake up 3 times for breastfeeding (around 9pm,1am and 4am) then when he was 4-5months he wake up only one time around midnight and go back sleep until morning, but since 2 weeks ago he always cry for milk every 2 hours just like when he was 1-2 months so i decide to increase his intake milk from 120cc to 150cc from last week (usually 120cc is up to 3 hours) but at night he still wake for milk every 3 hours even sometimes i already add another 10cc!! so he wake up 3 times now just like when he was 3 months old. he ask for milk around 8pm,midnight and then he totally wakes up at 3 or 4am for playing!!! i give him milk but seem like after he drink it he have more energy to playing around. he doing it almost every night for this past 2 weeks *sigh* and because he's drinking lots he pee lots too! i must change his diapers at night just like when he was 2 months old sometimes he pants also wet.

I hope that Bryan can get back to normal soon and don't have to wake up every night at 3am, mummy is tired! eventhough he don't cry and can get back to sleep by himself again after playing around 30minutes-1hour (depends on his energy) but since he sleeping between us (he cry when i try to put him into his electric cradle) he loves to punch my face to wake me up and keep making sound, so i must keep him quite so daddy don't wake up.

Bryan look alike meter

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7 Months

• loves cracker baby bites chicken taste from his taku
• still can't sitting perfectly, he can hold his body for few minutes before went down but keep practice everyday
• still can't rolling from tummy to back (he always cry for my help to turn him back after he tired) but he's trying to crawling now *sigh*
  
• very very active boy
  
• easily bored and always want people to take him go walking around
• loves kia-kia and cry when go home *like mother like son* hehehehe :D
  
• on his 7 months anniversary, his mood is not very good (pretend crying to seek my attention) *sigh*
• love to laughing out loud
  
• knowing people face
• can raise his hands to ask for hold
  
• very very cling with me
  
• still have 2 teeth
  
• drink 150cc every 2-3 hours depends on his demand!
  
• eat salmon porridge
  
• not bald anymore
  
• take a nap 3 times a day (usually only 30-45 minutes)
• still need pacifier