Think positive & be blessed

Most of my friends are asking me one same question when they're know that I'm living together with in-laws. "how you handle it?" or "you can tahan meh?" well, I'm not a superwoman yet (and i think i never be one) but I'm trying my best to adapt to family rules, of course it's not an easy task to do, there's lots of struggle along the way, eventough I'm already dating hubby for 10 years and quite understand his family member behavior but still it's not same when I must deal with it every minutes.

There's always two side of coins, the good one and the bad one, I can choose to be grumpy or I can choose to be happy and feel blessed, happiness is a choice and it was us who decided if we want to be happy or no, it just matter of a mindset, for me..living with in laws makes me learning and understanding something that I never thought before, I'm blessed to have this opportunity even there's upside down moments too, i think in this world,there's no such of perfect happily ever after family, built a happy family need lots of effort and struggle too but it was love who always stick on us forever.

I can't imagine how my mom in laws raise 5 children (all of them are 2 years apart) all by herself while she also must cooking for all family members (include her in-laws,sis and bro in laws), and to re-think I think my life is much much better than her, she's maybe "kepo" and fussy but that's all for my own good, I think she's trying to make me a better wife (and close a bit to her daughter in law criteria), every mother only want the best for her son and maybe I also can be like her one day when I think that my daughter in law is not take care of my son properly, and I can also feel sad if one day my son is reject or think that I'm only his burden and decided not to stay with me if he has a family and left me alone, it's part of a circle of life so instead of being complain, I think I should think it positive and be blessed :)

Standing up by himself

I must say that bryan development is slow and bit messed up, he's prefer to walk first instead of crawling (he's master crawling after he master walking),he sit up by himself (without help) when he was 12.5 months (while the other babies master it at 8 months),he's perfectly rolling left-right when he was 8 months and now, he's able to stand up by himself unsupport at 16 months! better be slow than nothing, right?:)

16 months old at Sea World

amaze with huge fish in front of him,he even cry when I take him to walk away so, he just stunning in front of it until another 10 min. :D

Us with Pepsi Baby Milo :)

it's so hard to take nice pic, since he keep looking for fish :(

with his partner in crime ;)

My father in law uncle (bryan's lau-cek-kong) is coming from Medan since last monday, so we're taking him to see fish at Sea World, and of course Bryan and Naomi come along too.. this is his second trip, the first one is on last December along with our relatives from Singapore, he's so excited see fishes and keep pointing when he see it.

and his 16 months big update are : he's finally can bend his body to pick up an object and standing up by him self from squad position *yeah*

Mommy new gadget

Here's few reason why I'm finally change my N-73 handphone :

• low memory (i just have 128 MB Memory card)
• Battery leak (even i already charge it normally, it's only last for half day)
• Unreasonable new battery prices
  

after months of searching and comparing, I've finally decide to buy N-79 to replace my N-73 :D
it comes with wi-fi, slim model with express cover changing and most important 5 megapixel camera with 4 G memory card!! All this time, I'm not using digital pocket camera to take bryan pictures daily, my panasonic camera still in my mom house,jaya sony digital camera is too old, the picture always blur since bryan can not stand still, and Jaya canon 40-D SLR camera is hardly out from our closet, even if he's taking a picture with it, I get lazy to resize and open since it will takes longgggg times since my asus laptop hard disk is run of space too *bwahahaha*

instead of blackberry and other smart phone, all i need is a nice camera handphone with better result picture from my N-73. actually, I'm also intersted with N-82 since the camera is come with xenon flash and the result photo is very clear, but I don't like the keypad.

so, today i'm officially using my new N-79 :)

Siblings?

Many peoples are asking me, when will Bryan have brother/sister? cause most of them said that its better to have second child 2-3 years different from the oldest so they still can catch up and become playmate rather than wait until Bryan is 5 years old.

Yes,of course I want to give Bryan sibling to play with, Jaya and I are come from big families, I have 3 younger brother while Jaya have 4 older sister, when I was a little girl.. I'll always want to have 5 children, 3 older son-2 little twins girl, I even prepare names for them, of course bryan names also come from that list ;) but its when I was little and very naive! now, I think I only want 3 and really hope that my second child are twins since Jaya said he only want 2 :D

but back again,I think the question about second child is really personal one, people can ask,give opinion or share their experience but the decision is still on couples, is they're ready as in emotion and material? (since raising a baby needs LOTS of money) or their own commitment before married (maybe they just want ONE baby) some people can be very annoying and irritated in gossiping others, such as when they heard that Mrs X already pregnant again while her son just 4 months old or when they think that Mrs Y is not really a good mother since she give their children a nannies while she go shopping at mall.

We, as an outsider maybe don't now the truth and their personal reason behind all of that, maybe Mrs. X get married at 30 something and she think that she'll running out of time if she don't make another baby now or she just ready as in emotion and material, and maybe Mrs Y is a great mother, she do spend quality times with their children at home and maybe when they find Mrs Y shopping, it's her time to have me-time alone moment. who knows rite? we just an outsider.

and for me.. I have my own reason and fear about having a second child, I think I'll wait until Bryan is 3 years before having a second one, cause I can more focus to him now and spend more times before he's ready to go school but In other hand I also afraid that my second child is not as easy as Bryan (Bryan is consider an easy one), how can I divide my love to other baby or bryan get jealous with the baby, and so many others thoughts,which I'm sure some mother also think about it when get pregnant with the second one.

for this moment, I'm still enjoy my times with my little Bryan.