Clueless

I'm clueless.. in finding the best way to teach Bryan discipline, having many people at home make him BIG HEAD!! for example.. If I'm scold him after he makes a mistake, he'll cry out loud to attract everybody attention, when he see someone who approach him when he's cry..he'll cry out even louder just like reporting that he's being scold by me and asking them to hold him, then..after he's in their arms,suddenly he'll stop cry!! but, if there's no one at home when I scold him, he'll not dare to move and will follow me everywhere (mostly he's running around the house and ignore when I said to sit nicely or asking to follow me)

the one who looks like his all time hero is my maid (who usually play and take care of bryan while I'm cooking,bath, or away for a while to market). I already ask her to get away everytime I'm discipline him, but still.. since the maid never scold him, he'll become big head in front of her!

this past few weeks i've notice that Bryan getting emotional attach with her,it's all start when bryan is having a nightmare and trouble sleep during nights, sometimes he can cry out loud while his eyes still close when I try to hold him, he'll refuse, throwing himself back to his box and cry even louder, Jaya and I trying hard to make him stop crying but failed! until my sis in law is knocking on my door and bring my maid inside my room. she's hold bryan in her arms and bryan stop cry right away!! *sigh* don't ask...I'm so jealous that time!

he knows and understand when I said "don't touch or mommy will pat your hands" but mostly he'll still doing it, so I'll ask where's your hand..he'll give his hands to me to pat and after that running away and DO IT AGAIN!! arghh...!! he still put everything into his mouth, still throwing things on floor and can pretend to cry with big drop of tears.

the one thing that makes me bit relieve now is he'll follow my words when we're outside, as long as we're not let him walk in outside..he can sit nicely on his pram, and when we're going to my mom house, he'll not dare to touch anything that I'm not allow him to touch! so everyone who see my little rascal outside always give me compliment! mostly they'll tell that he's a good boy, very calm and obedient (since he can sit nicely on his pram without wailing to get away). *shake head*

seriously, I'm clueless...

Baby safety

Long before Bryan is able to walk, my father in law is already thinking how to makes our house become safety, since our house have 3 floors, non-safety stairs and balcony design, he's start hunting baby safety gates at babies store in order to get image and inspiration in how to deploy it at our stairs and after he have a design, he's calling people who makes our stairs to make it otherwise the material and the color will not matching with our stairs. and for the balcony in second floor.. he's cover it all with a thick transparent board so when bryan is running over to balcony he'll be safe :)

thank you yeye..:)

How to do?

As a newly mother who doesn't have any experience at all in parenthood, I browse lots of articles and read many people experience about how to teach kid become a good man in the future, and yet when it comes to real situation I still become speechless about how to handle Bryan, now he loves to scream, wailing when we don't do what he want us to do, I don't want him to be grown up as a spoiled kids, and yes I'm afraid that he can't control emotion and doing uncontrolled things like screaming or throwing tantrum in front of public.

I'm still confused about how to discipline bryan, I try to understand what he needs from me, why he cry and screaming but sometimes it just don't enough, especially when you're living together with others the pressure is on! they said that if your kid miss behave then people around you will judge the mother first cause not being able to teach her kids a good manner. others tell me to gently flick bryan if he's doing something wrong so later on he will understand that he can't do it again, I see it works on bryan cousin, naomi who 6 months older than him. if her mother say in high tone" Naomi, pu ke yi ce yang.. mana karet?" she will stop it directly, if she still continue doing it then her mom will put rubber in her arm and hit it gently.

but, I don't totally really agree about "hitting or flick" part, it just make him scare but not understand the concept why I'm doing that, I'm totally agree with leony and adhitya it just a phase of growing up and we as his parents also growing up in emotionally and physically to become more patient and wiser to dealing with his daily behaviour, i don't say it will always easy and smooth, i'm sure there's a time when i feel like loosing temper and emotionally low, it just like riding a roller coaster. it just feel so good to know that i'm not alone in this, if my mom can survive with 4 children then i think Bryan is nothing compare to it. and slowly as time goes by.. I'm sure that I'm gonna find my own style to discipline bryan.

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear ... "
~1 John 4:18~